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How to Cope With Arranging a Funeral for Your Loved One

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If someone you were very close to has died and you are too distressed to cope with making the funeral arrangements, you might find the following advice to be helpful.

Ask for help from the funeral planner at your local funeral home.

If you feel overwhelmed and unable to cope with the funeral arrangements, you should get in touch with the funeral planner at your local funeral home. As their title suggests, this person is trained to handle all of the most important aspects of planning a funeral, including hiring a clergyperson (if the funeral service will be of a religious nature), organising the transportation of your loved one's body from the funeral home to the crematorium or cemetery, ordering the flowers, as well as all of the other minutiae associated with organising a funeral.

Whilst you will still have to participate in the planning process (as the funeral planner will need you to, for example, choose the music and the flowers), the bulk of the work will be done by this professional.

Having the support of a knowledgeable funeral planner who has experience in dealing with grieving people and who understands how to arrange a funeral in an efficient and careful manner should make it much easier for you to cope with this difficult experience.

Keep the arrangements simple.

One of the reasons that many people find it so difficult to arrange a funeral for their loved ones is because they feel that they need to give the deceased the best possible send-off by planning a perfect and beautiful funeral.

Whilst this is an admirable sentiment, the process of planning a complicated and elaborate funeral can put a lot of pressure on these people at a time when they are feeling incredibly vulnerable and emotionally spent. This, in turn, can lead to them experiencing a paralysing sense of overwhelm which can make it impossible for them to do anything productive.

This is why, if you're already struggling to handle the loss of your loved one, it is best to keep the funeral arrangements simple.

The presence of you and the deceased's other close friends and family, coupled with some carefully-chosen music, pretty flowers and a thoughtful and sensitively-constructed eulogy, is all that is really needed.

This type of uncomplicated funeral will be far less stressful to plan. This, in turn, will ensure that you are emotionally strong enough to say goodbye to your loved one.